What? You can have casual sex responsibly? Let's face it- so many people have it at least once or twice. It can be an incredible experience that leaves both people feeling great, or it can be a time of your life that can make you feel awful. So much of that is how you look after yourself before, during and after.
If you're not feeling emotionally resilient you're a train wreck waiting to happen. If you are going through a periods in your life where physical intimacy is the way you are band aiding up your heart while it's hemorrhaging everywhere else and having sex with randoms, waking up, regretting it, then doing it all over again week after week, you're not doing anything good for yourself
It's best to be sober, or at the most just a little tipsy. If you're completely blotto, catch a taxi and go home ALONE. We've all had friends who've woken up next to someone with no memory of how he got there. Which also means she can't normally remember if they used condoms. That is not having casual sex responsibly! Sex is good enough to have when sober, or slightly relaxed with one glass of wine- and you're more likely to have it with someone you actually find pleasant!
If you really like the guy, and they suggest you sleep with him, then you probably shouldn't risk it unless there is a relationship around it. Otherwise feelings are going to get all the more worse. If he's your top crush, and you've not gone on a date, or he's never asked you out, but suddenly wants to get in your pants, it's tempting. But it's really not going to do your heart any good.
It's best to verbally set up some rules before you have sex. One night stands with mates are far more problematic as you both have to have a fair amount of emotional maturity to cope with the next day pangs. Setting good boundaries is really important for your own emotional health
Always, always, always use protection. Carrying a condom in your handbag doesn't make you look like a slut. It's far less painful than having to slide into the chemist for the morning after pill, or getting checked for STI's.
A good ONS is someone you aren't going to be embarrassed to see again socially. Our lives are full of accidentally bumping into people. Make sure anyone you sleep with is mature enough to be pleasant with socially after. Sex with a grown up is far better than having it with a 12 year old trapped in a 30 year old's body. And chatting afterwards is always nice and good.
Have it with someone completely attracted to you. And vice versa. That's the whole point really isn't it? You want to feel good after it. If you pick well you'll be feeling sexier, happier and more attractive for days.
If it's something you are doing with randoms on a very regular basis take a look at why. For some it's a stage in their life. But if it's the only thing making you feel good, it's probably good to take a wee break for a bit. Everyone needs a good hobby. Having casual sex responsibly once or twice however is different from compulsive random shagging which is perhaps not the healthiest hobby you can have.
Source: Ezine
If you're not feeling emotionally resilient you're a train wreck waiting to happen. If you are going through a periods in your life where physical intimacy is the way you are band aiding up your heart while it's hemorrhaging everywhere else and having sex with randoms, waking up, regretting it, then doing it all over again week after week, you're not doing anything good for yourself
It's best to be sober, or at the most just a little tipsy. If you're completely blotto, catch a taxi and go home ALONE. We've all had friends who've woken up next to someone with no memory of how he got there. Which also means she can't normally remember if they used condoms. That is not having casual sex responsibly! Sex is good enough to have when sober, or slightly relaxed with one glass of wine- and you're more likely to have it with someone you actually find pleasant!
If you really like the guy, and they suggest you sleep with him, then you probably shouldn't risk it unless there is a relationship around it. Otherwise feelings are going to get all the more worse. If he's your top crush, and you've not gone on a date, or he's never asked you out, but suddenly wants to get in your pants, it's tempting. But it's really not going to do your heart any good.
It's best to verbally set up some rules before you have sex. One night stands with mates are far more problematic as you both have to have a fair amount of emotional maturity to cope with the next day pangs. Setting good boundaries is really important for your own emotional health
Always, always, always use protection. Carrying a condom in your handbag doesn't make you look like a slut. It's far less painful than having to slide into the chemist for the morning after pill, or getting checked for STI's.
A good ONS is someone you aren't going to be embarrassed to see again socially. Our lives are full of accidentally bumping into people. Make sure anyone you sleep with is mature enough to be pleasant with socially after. Sex with a grown up is far better than having it with a 12 year old trapped in a 30 year old's body. And chatting afterwards is always nice and good.
Have it with someone completely attracted to you. And vice versa. That's the whole point really isn't it? You want to feel good after it. If you pick well you'll be feeling sexier, happier and more attractive for days.
If it's something you are doing with randoms on a very regular basis take a look at why. For some it's a stage in their life. But if it's the only thing making you feel good, it's probably good to take a wee break for a bit. Everyone needs a good hobby. Having casual sex responsibly once or twice however is different from compulsive random shagging which is perhaps not the healthiest hobby you can have.
Source: Ezine
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